Naked at the Funeral
almiiiteyPenpusher
When her husband dies, Jenny must block the unbearable pain of losing the man she loved with increasingly risky sexual adventures with a womanizer she hates.
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It’s a little 50 shades but could work.
The first question I have is in the wording. The way it reads now it sounds like to escape one undesirable situation she throws herself into another undesireable situation. I take it having sex with the man she hates makes her feel better in some way rather than worse. Maybe you could reflect this in the wording.
My next question is – she has sex with this dude over and over…and then what?
Also re the title: Is this an edgy romantic comedy or a drama?
Hi,
It’s a bit 50 shades but could work.
The first question this logline makes me ask is why is she trying to overcome one undesirable situation by putting herself in another undesirable situation? I assume sleeping with this guy makes her feel better – perhaps your logline could make this clearer. Right now it looks like she’s having to sleep with someone she hates. Why not just have sex with someone she likes or a stranger?
My second question is – what happens after they have all this crazy sex? I could guess they end up together which then makes me wonder what genre this is.
Thanks so much for your comments. The genre is drama. I’ll put together additional information in answer to your other questions in a second post.
The simplest way to describe this screenplay is an exploration of sex and death for the 60-something set. With the baby-boomer generation a large portion of the movie audience, at least in the US, I think there could be a strong market for this story.
I chose the title to describe a feeling of being vulnerable and exposed. Your reaction that it might imply an edgy comedy is very helpful. When the two main characters start their sexual adventures, it might appear to be a comedy. It could be interesting for the audience to play against that expectation.
Why does she choose a man she hates? Jenny is a devoted wife who is devastated by the death of her husband Sam. His loss is unbearable and she is looking for an escape from the pain. There are lots of ways to do this, of course, drugs, booze, etc. I thought it would be interesting if she chose sex as her drug of choice.
The womanizer in the logline is John, a friend of her husband, who has the reputation of being a commitment-phobic but very talented lover. John gets drunk at Jenny and Sam?s wedding, makes a sexual and inappropriate toast and Jenny never forgives him. Jenny hates John because he is the exact opposite of her kind, supportive husband.
Jenny finds herself in an impossible situation. She is a faithful wife who needs sex to handle the pain of his death. Somehow, she has to be faithfully unfaithful to her dead husband. Her solution is to choose someone she does not love who is just in it for the sex.
What happens after all the sex? Like any drug, it fixes the situation in the short term but becomes a problem in and of itself as its effects inevitably wear off. Jenny keeps bumping into memories of her husband that require riskier sexual adventures to make them go away. The stakes are raised when John finds himself falling in love with Jenny. Ultimately, it is a relationship doomed to failure. When it ends, Jenny is forced to finally to deal with the pain of Sam?s death but finds, unexpectedly, that she and John formed a bond that allows John to become a more loving human being and Jenny to move on with her life.
I look forward your suggestions for changes to the logline.
>>an exploration of sex and death for the 60-something set
How old is the grieving widow?
Dear dpg,
Currently, I am picturing the widow her as younger than her husband–late 40’s early 50’s.
Sorry, shouldn’t type before first cup of coffee. Please removed the word her in the above reply.
I think there’s an audience for films about for mid-life+ themes and situations. But this a challenging premise in terms of the psychology. Best wishes.
One comment I would make about your logline. You say she “Must” block the pain by having sex with a womanizer.
If you tell us she” must,” then you have to give us an -Or-
She “Must” do this “Or” this bad thing will happen. You have given us what she “Must” do but haven’t told us what will happen if she doesn’t.
Hope that helped, good luck with this!
Good point, Richiev! Must… or else… what?
What’s the worst thing she could do in her state of grief? Commit suicide. So I suppose screwing a man whom she detests could be the lesser of two evils.
Particularly if she gets hooked on not just the pleasure of sex per se, but also a bonus factor such as the temporary high, the adrenalin and dopamine pump, that comes taking risks she never had the guts (or folly) to do before in her safe, sane, humdrum marriage.
As a 60+ myself, I think there is merit in this film as well as a market. HOWEVER. I think it would work much better if you considered some other options. I came up with two.
1. Jenny mourns her dead husband, but now is curious what it’s like to be a bit promiscuous, something she never did, as Sam was her first and only love. So she chooses John the rake, to introduce her to this new world. They can either really fall in love, or she finds someone else through John who really falls in love with her but is left in the lurch. – Geriatric Rom Com
2. Jenny feels guilty about something that happened between her and Sam that was not resolved before he died. She needs sex, but finds there are not many men out there to chose from, so she responds to the overtures of rake John. As the relationship develops, she learns that John was responsible for whatever happened and she dumps him and realises that she can live without a man. – coming of age delayed story.
Anyway, just brainstorming here. But lots of possibilities. Keep at it.
I have met several women who were widowed at 60+ after very happy 30-40 year marriages and they were genuinely curious and excited, but completely naive about dating. They behave like teenagers. It’s a gold mine situation.
I like Elizabethan’s slant on the concept; it reflects the way people that age are more likely to think and act.
Dear Richiev, dpg and elizabethban,
Thank you all for your responses. I have been away from my computer (aka my lifeline) for the past 24 hours and to come back to insightful feedback is deeply appreciated. I will reflect on your suggestions and respond to each of you tomorrow. Again, my deepest thanks.
Dear dpg,
I agree, the psychology is really tricky. How can this woman say she loves her husband and then have sex with someone she supposedly hates on the day of his funeral? That is the inciting incident. I think I’m taking big risks in terms of empathy with this character, and enjoying the challenge. Elizabethban has some fantastic alternate ideas that would work well. I’m going to continue to explore my original idea for a bit longer but am prepared for it to possibly fall flat.
Thank Richiev, the “or else” piece of the logline is missing. I think dpg’s suggestion of “or else commit suicide” is a very workable answer.
I am challenging myself to try for a little different answer but not sure it will work. The “or else” I am trying for is she has to block the pain of her husband’s death or else risk destroying his memory. Jenny is in shock at her husband’s unexpected death and prepares for the funeral in a daze. She appears to be handling the funeral arrangements well, including delivering the eulogy herself, but is actually in shock and denial. The reality of the funeral finally pulls her out of denial and the pain is overwhelming. She is angry he’s gone and afraid she is going to vent that anger in front of their friends and family at the funeral. She needs some kind of human connection, any connection, to counter the fear and loneliness that is bubbling up at exactly the wrong moment. And in walks John.
Dear dpg,
I think “commit suicide” would work well. I am trying for a logline where the main character uses sex as a temporary high to block the pain of her husband’s loss. I would like to try to contrast the ultimately empty physical intimacy she has with John to the true, emotional intimacy she had with her husband.
Dear elizabethban,
Your suggestions are very helpful. Thank you. I would like to try a little different take on this situation but it may not work. Please see my replies to dpg and Richiev for more information. I would welcome any additional feedback you would like to share.
Any time. 🙂
Almiitey:
I do grief counseling and suicide intervention. Frankly, the premise doesn’t synch with my experience or study of the literature. After the death of a dearly loved one, survivors work through an extensive grief period characterized by anhedonia, an inability to enjoy any pleasure or joy.
If they “escape” through drug abuse, gambling, food binging, reckless sex or other deleterious behavior, it is almost always the case they were doing so before. The death of the loved one may exacerbate a pre-existing problem or tendency. But for people in mid life or later, it rarely triggers a new, out-of-the-blue, deleterious “escape” behavior. (And the new deleterious behavior it may trigger is commonly drug abuse, a consequence of medications prescribed to cope with depression.)
fwiw
IOW:
It’s more credible if your character’s flaw is pre-existing, repressed in the background of her psyche (or lurking in her life history); her husband’s death triggered the break out, made manifest what was latent or dormant.
Maybe, dpg, but that’s not the story arc, which is what the logline is supposed to be. I think this version is much better, though still not quite there.
In my very limited experience with healthy friends with a history of happy marriage, I think there is a desire to go back to a good relationship very soon after the death of a loved one, and also a curiosity as to what dating is all about in the new world (i.e. after 30-40 years). Most of them are fish out of water completely and dangerously naive. That’s why this character is taking up with the guy, out of naivite. If that’s true, then I think the premise could work very well. On the other hand, if the person had a history of affairs, then she will continue to do so, but the situation is different as she can’t go back to the security of the existing relationship and in that case she is still fish out of water. (I’ve seen that too).
Anyway, I think the story arc still needs work, but the logline is definitely more interesting. Well done.
Dear dpg,
Thank you for sharing your experience as a grief counselor–your insights are very helpful. Without going into extensive details, I have tried to set up the story before the inciting incident to explain that there was a connection between the two main characters that breaks out when Jenny’s husband dies. Although Jenny professes to hate John, I also try to set up a fascination with his lifestyle which helps explain the inciting incident. I think it meets your qualification of a character flaw that is lurking in her psyche. Based on your experience, would that make the inciting incident have more psychological credibility?
The idea for this screenplay, although not autobiographical, came from the personal experience of having several deaths of close family members around the time of my 25th wedding anniversary. It was such an odd feeling to celebrate a long-term, loving relationship with the reality of death all around. If I think I know anything about love after 25 years, it is that it is the exact opposite of what the literature describes as anhedonia. I would like to explore the idea of what would happen if a happily married woman loses her husband, feels the cold reality of anhedonia setting in, and runs like hell to get away. Certainly not the most noble response, but I think a very human and understandable reaction.
My biggest fear is that this story will be trivialized to something like “bored horny housewife goes on a series of sexcapades when her domineering husband dies.” I’m clearly out on a limb with this story idea, but I am hoping I can write in a way that is respectful of the true nature of the grieving process and with a logline that gives some idea of the true nature of the story.
As always, your comments are very helpful.
Dear elizabethban,
Thank you for your comments. I have also had friends that have gone through the same process you describe.
Elizabethan
>>there is a desire to go back to a good relationship very soon after the death of a loved one…
Okay…. BUT that’s not the original premise. She’s not getting involved with a guy she had a good relationship with. She’s “working out her grief” through a womanizer she hates.
almiitey:
>>what would happen if a happily married woman loses her husband, feels the cold reality of anhedonia setting in, and runs like hell to get away
My problem is not that she runs like hell, but that she runs like hell into the arms of a womanizer she hates.
It’s the ‘womanizer she hates’ that is the sticking point for me in terms of credible motivation.
In this regard, I happened to re-view “Silver Linings Playbook” last night. The female lead character, Tiffany, played by Jennifer Lawrence, is a young widow who “worked out her grief” by sleeping around with everyone at work.
The story makes quite clear that she and the male lead, Pat, played by Bradley Cooper, are playing with extra jokers in their deck of cards. At their first meet-cute, they share the one thing they have in common: all the medications they’ve taken to cope with their psychological problems.
And at one point she tells him: “I was a big slut, but I’m not anymore. There?s always gonna be a part of me that?s sloppy and dirty, but I like that…”
And I like it too! Because the screenwriter has done the spade work to make it believable.
I am intrigued by the notion of a widower getting involved with a womanizer she hates. But at the moment, I’m not buying the initial motivation for it.
Correction: widow, not widower.
What is anhedonia. I never heard that term.
Anhedonia: the inability to experience pleasure from activities usually found enjoyable.
Trivia: Woody Allen’s movie “Annie Hall” is a pun-play on the term. The working title was “Anhedonia”; on one level, the story is a running joke on his problem with anhedonia.
So, in this case the woman would be suffering anhedonia – she can’t enjoy sex? But then why would she do it? I am getting confused. If the anhedonia ‘is setting in’ why would she look for sex, wouldn’t she just be not interested? Doesn’t make sense. I think I am missing something. Which means there’s still something wrong with the premise. Or she has other guys before the one she dislikes and that’s how she realises she has anhedonia and then decides to go with this womaniser, because she thinks he knows what he is doing, so he may help her go get out of it and get pleasure. However, that doesn’t make sense either, because she can’t get pleasure with someone she dislikes. So, alternatively, if we want to keep the same scenario. She may rebuff his advances, but he may be helpful in other ways – like helping with legal/business stuff, or a move, or with the kids, or something, and they grow to be friends – so it’s a buddy story turning into romance. I still think something is missing. SORRY. But it’s interesting enough to think about.
>>She may rebuff his advances, but he may be helpful in other ways ? like helping with legal/business stuff, or a move, or with the kids, or something, and they grow to be friends ? so it?s a buddy story turning into romance.
I like. Reluctant reliance on a man whose womanizing she despises leads to blossoming romance.
Dear elizabethban,
Really helpful suggestions for changes. Thank you.
Dear dpg,
Really great logline rewrite–very helpful. Thank you.
You are welcome. Have fun writing it.